I recently met with some college students to talk about how they can get an edge in this incredibly tough job market. I posted the comments under “10 Ideas That Really Work: Getting A Sharp Edge For Your Job Interview” and invited a good friend to look at it.
He is one of The Ten Best Men in My Life and I learned, again, why.
His observations are pure gold. I include them here with his permission. I realized as I read them that I don’t want to make any mistakes that set someone else back so I must be more careful.
Take all of my suggestions with a grain of salt.
Apply them to your own situation as you see fit.
Here is the excellent feedback from an experienced friend I trust and admire:“If this is directed to young folks, we can start off by telling them to leave all their electronic junk (phone, etc) in the car. They are interviewing for a job. They better be respectful or that will be the last time they see the inside of that office. And I’m not just talking about talking or texting. I’m talking about the annoying beeps, buzzes, and fancy ring tones.”
“Which leads me to the second item which I think we discussed. Younger folks are losing the skill of talking with people. In person. Not texting. Not email. Not Twitter. Not any other form of communication other than talking in person. This connects directly to another item you mentioned – listening. “Eyes are the soul and window to the heart”. This is a reason why I hate texting, emails, etc. Of course there is a place for it such as here. But it is being used, or I should say overused, to the point younger folks are not only losing the art of interviewing. (They are also) becoming impatient, writing and spelling poorly, on and on.”
“Self-deprecation. Need to be very careful with that. Although I can kid around with friends, in a professional setting such as an interview I want to be perceived as self-confident, can get the job done, etc. Of course I realize doing this you do not want to cross over the line and come across as arrogant, over confident, etc.”
“Silence. Another fine balance that is an art. I’m not talking about sitting around with The 10 Best Men as it’s a free for all have fun atmosphere. I’m talking about in a professional setting. So the balance comes in with not waiting too long and appearing like you’re trying hard to search for an answer, or blurting out an answer and appearing impulsive.”